Blocking Blessings

Although I know she didn't create the phrase, Patti LaBelle introduced me to the quote, Don't Block the Blessings.  It's the title of a book that she wrote and I really think that it is appropriate as we navigate through life.

When it comes to sex and relationships, people block the blessings all the time.  I have scores of female friends who are exposed to tons of successful, intelligent men--but until Jesus Christ himself steps up to them--they don't seem interested.  It's as if a guy isn't perfect, they don't want to be bothered with him.

I've always said, It's the overparticular one's that end up all alone. 

In an effort to get what we think we want, we create high (and sometimes foolish) standards that oftentimes block us from getting the very thing we need or desire.

After a two month hiatus and deleting my old adam4adam.com account, I signed back on with a new screenname, profile, and picture.  To my surprise, someone who I had tried to meet countless times on my old account hit me up expressing interest in meeting. 

So last week he came over my crib during the day.  He's a tall black man.  I had a vague notion of what his body looked like--but not his face.  When he arrived, I was shocked.  He was really corny looking.  Almost nerdy.  I couldn't believe that the man in front of me had given me such a hard time meeting me.

When I came to the door, he had a huge smile on his face.  He was not only visibly pleased with what he saw, but he told me once we sat down in my apartment, Man you really are a beautiful brother.

It was the lunch hour, and we were doing a lunch fuck, so I hurried him out of his clothes and we spent the lunch hour having some pretty amazing sex.

Afterwards, he stared at my body and my face.  He couldn't keep his hands off of me, and told me, Man, I wish I met you a long time ago, when I was really looking for someone in my life.  I hope we get together again, I had a nice time.

I had to admit, the sex was solid.  I would definitely be calling him back.  But I thought back to the year when I tried to meet him and I got no play from him.  He wasted all that time.  In the past, he would email me and tell me that he was interested, but would never really commit to meeting.

Now he was in my bed telling me that he wished he had met me earlier. I almost choked on the irony.  The funny thing is that he would have met me earlier if he didn't block the blessings and had remained open to the possibilities that came his way.  But lots of men are like this on the Internet.  They forget that the Internet is a way to meet people in REAL space, not a way to meet people with flawless pictures.

But because I didn't have enough pictures, or the angle or lighting in my picture wasn't right--he let something that he was ultimately interested in, pass him by.

He just reminded me to keep things open in my search for love and sex and not to block the blessings.

Please note: I've been going through a lot lately.  Which is why I have not been updating the blog as regularly as possible.  I'll be on a short hiatus and probably won't be updating again until next Monday.  In the coming weeks, I suspect that I will get back on a regular schedule, but not on the daily posting regiment that I had in 2005.  Instead, I will likely update only 3 times a week.  This is to ensure that I have time to write great stories that keep you guys entertained.  Thanks for being patient with Sex and the Second City.  The best is yet to come.

much sex,

Bernard

Comments

[Procrastination_xtravaganza]

It's just great that anytime I get sidetracked form the Internet with my so called life, the people who I'm in contact with via the Internet get pulled away from it as well, and in the long run, we don't miss too much in the way of life updates. I hope what you're going through isn't too heavy, and you'll work through it and we'll catch up soon.

I had a similar experience recently with this guy who I've been speaking with online for years and he always said he liked what he saw and the convo, just never enough to meet up, and we finally met, chilled, had great sex, and he was actually a bit intimidated and overwhelmed by the whole thing, That he took so long to get it together all but eliminates the possibility of anything becoming of it, I have little interest now, but we'll see, seems like the type to let me run the show, and I have no problem with that.

[clay cane]

yes lawd, meeting people online is like russian roulette so goodluck to you

[Linear]

Hope it works out, sexy man.

[sunny]

Well I hope that whatever you are going thru works itself out for the best.

Meeting peeps on the web is always a gamble. Its easier to interact, and easier to play peeps to the side online. The minute you exchange real world information, it becomes a bit more challenging.

I am slow to take online encounters into the real world until after I have interacted with the person to get a general idea of their character.

Even then, sometimes, I am wrong.

[Jyl]

You take care of yourself Bernard. That's the most important thing.