Sex Tip: Talk

Its the return of the Thursday Sex Tip.

Last week I went to the bathhouse and ran into this cute, svelt, sun-kissed brazillian.  He had a funny accent.  And there was no conversation--which is often the case in bathhouses.  He didn't talk to me at all.  He just looked at me weird with big brown eyes. 

Without talking I knew what he wanted.  I pulled out a condom, wrapped up my dick and had him on his knees in 20 seconds. 

A minute later, I was inside of him.  Fucking him.  Banging him.  Trying to stab his prostate. 

But there was something missing.

The whole encounter was too quiet. 

He was mildly moaning, but nothing really intense.  I looked down, and his dick wasn't even that hard.  This is a no-no for me.  I hate fucking a bottom guy who doesn't get hard during penetration.

So I decided to remove the silence.  I talked dirty to him: You ready for me to take this fat dick further inside you? I started thinking of things to say to him and started peppering him with it. 

No only did he get hard.  But he blew a huge load all over himself, while my pipe was inside of him.

That's right.  This boy loved dirty talk.

This week's sex tip is to talk to your sex partner.  Not everyone is going to be like my brazilian who got off on racy, sexually explicit.  But that doesn't mean that you shouldn't talk to your partner during sex. 

Sex is 95% mental.  And still, one of the best ways to stimulate someone's mind is through sound.  So if you don't want to tell your guy, I'm going to dig your back out with my anaconda, there are other choices.

The number one thing to talk about during sex is: what makes you feel good.  Tell your guy that his licking of the ear at that second is driving you crazy.  In this scenario, not only are you intensifying the sexuality by disclosing your feelings--but you are also giving your partner positive encouragment.

No.  This does not mean you have to become a chatty cathy.  But it does mean that you think about how sounds can improve your sex and your orgasm. 

Here are some ways to incorporate sound and talk into your sex life:

• Be graphic.  Tell your partner exactly you want him to do.  Take full control and tell him, in a step-by-step fashion.  But when you do this.  Don't be bashful.  Commit to it.  Be graphic and detail oriented.
• Moan or if you're a manly man, grunt.  If it feels good, let the brotha know with a nice grunt.
• Reminesce.  Tell him a hot story of a previous sexual encounter.  This encounter can be one between you and him--or another guy altogether.
• Fantasize.  Tell him about a sexual fantasy.
• Be descriptive.  Talk about his body.  When you go to lick on his chest, describe it: Man, I love licking those hairy pecs.
• Use expletives.  If something is feeling good, a well place Damn that feels good, or Fuck that's awesome can heighten pleasure for both parties.

Remember, any good sex talk is good communication.  It should let your partner know when you are feeling great, and when he might want to change the style a bit.

Comments

[Boogie]

Thanks for the tip ;)

[Fratman1906]

You nailed this one just right. The hottest sex I had was with someone where we both disturbed the neighbors with our grunts, moans and talk. Whew, lawd. I wonder what his name was. I just remember the sex. LOL.

[Fratman1906]

You nailed this one just right. The hottest sex I had was with someone where we both disturbed the neighbors with our grunts, moans and talk. Whew, lawd. I wonder what his name was. I just remember the sex. LOL.

[taylor Siluwé]

This is so true, sounds mean a whole helluva lot. I've always believed the more vocal I get the better the sex.

Talking to my partner, and having him respond, is the ultimate connection for me.

[Quentin Ergane]

Ok, so, I think most sex talk is really stupid, right? But when Rye is behind me and says something in that husky low voice of his... damn, damn, DAMN!

You know what you are missing tho? It isn't so much that people *talk*, but that people COMMUNICATE when they are having sex with each other. People treat having sex with someone else much the same way you'd treat a watermelon you happened to fuck... like a thing only there to make you nut.

Nut... no pleasure. And why are we having sex if NOT for the pleasure????

... and communication of said pleasure.

A look, raising of eyebrows, the body moving in this way or that... communication can be nonverbal as well... just has to be there... else, you might as well fuck a microwaved corpse.....

[Liquid Fonts]

so true, nothing is more of a turn off than a silent sex partner.

[4Gotten1]

I love this post it really gave me something to think about when i take that plunge back into sex.